And even if we could do that, we would have to rank the traits themselves by how much they meant to us: does intelligence count the same as physical beauty?
What about honesty, and sense of humor, and kindness?
As a result, they get a lot more attention and typically develop large egos.
I find huge egos unattractive as the person can be narcissistic, self-absorbed, or less inclined to make sacrifices or compromise. Men only get better with age so the problem is likely to get worse, not better, with time.”Cara, another successful woman who works in advertising, puts it more bluntly: “I’ve definitely been less interested in guys that are too good-looking—my initial reaction is that it makes me think they’re going to be assholes or gay.” Assholes because, like Caitlin, she assumes they’ll have an ego, and gay, because, “I feel like gay men take care of themselves better than straight men.” findings from a study conducted by OKCupid, which found that while women judge the majority of men to be less than average in the looks department (harsh, ladies), they’re actually more likely to message those okay-looking guys than their studly counterparts.
(You know, missing the forest for the trees and all that.) Rather than focus on the comparisons and rankings of different people, always looking for more attractive, more intelligent, or more successful, we should focus on the unique connection that we can make—a connection which is with a whole person, not just a set of characteristics.
When I hear people talking about their relationships, all too often they say things like, "he's fine, but I think I could do better," or "am I settling for her?“Everyone has their own internal radar they use when deciding who to go out with,” says Manhattan-based relationship expert and Licensed Clinical Social Worker Rachel Sussman.“If someone is too good-looking, too rich, too successful—it might make the average person uncomfortable.”" data-reactid="27"This reflects the findings from a study conducted by OKCupid, which found that while women judge the majority of men to be less than average in the looks department (harsh, ladies), they’re actually more likely to message those okay-looking guys than their studly counterparts.However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.