"Stable female connections and friendships are significant as women in their thirties develop a new level of freedom and self-awareness," explains therapist Shamanda Burston. People love to hear compliments, even from total strangers.
In your 20s, you’re busy having fun, experiencing life and not worrying about settling down. I’d love to throw my biological clock against a wall. Right Now falls madly in love with you and becomes your dreamy Mr. Casual flings were great before, but as you get older, you want something more than a quick bang and out the door.
Instead, I worry that it’s a glimpse into a lonelier future. I’ve moved five times across four states since graduating college, so I know the drill.
First come acquaintances, people I can recognize and say hi to at yoga class, cookouts, church, that kind of thing.
There’s a good chance I’ll spend my birthday at home with my husband and dog, eating Betty Crocker chocolate cupcakes I made myself. I can’t tell if I gravitate to people whose social calendars are already full, if they’re not as eager to get together as I am, or if it’s a combination of both.
To plenty of people, that sounds like a perfect way to celebrate — a night in with family I love. I somehow still feel like a newcomer in the place I’ve lived for almost two years.