Keep in mind these tips when your out and about with your date. Be specific about what you want out of the relationship with her and her kids. Don't rush her by asking to spend time with her kids.If you feel that she's pressuring you into playing the father role and you aren't interested in playing a father role, let her know. Even though she wants you to meet them someday, she probably wants things to be right between the two of you first. Finding out what happened between her and the father of her child will give you a better idea of who she is and what she stands for. She doesn't really want to cancel the date the two of you have set up, but she can't leave her child at home sick.
Take time to get down on the ground to play with and talk to them.
Depending on your girlfriend's custody arrangement and age of her children, you may have to plan out your dates days -- or even weeks -- in advance.
Consider meeting your girlfriend's children a major step in your relationship.
Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run it’s course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.
For me, it was 18 months before I considered dating again.